Lapher’s Blog

Many people meet, are attracted to each other, and fall in love but do not live happily ever after. Why? Maybe they are confused with the meaning of “love”.

So lets just look at the meaning of love which I guess is the most accurately comprehended. When an individual loves someone, you value the person highly and choose to nurture the one that you love with your resources (time, money …. etc). You then choose to put him/her far above the daily task that you have, hence putting him/her at the top of your priority list. Therefore we choose to be in love with someone and to make that choice we need to know about the person. Knowing someone requires time. So love at first sight is just something that you see in the movies.

However, to offer yourself in this case does not mean to sacrifice or deprive you of resources. Most people relate, "giving" to "relieving oneself of resources." But psychologists familiar with human behaviour observe that "giving love" has a different meaning. When you give love, you experience strength, joy, and aliveness.

Therefore, those who give of themselves are conferring on another the most precious gift they have to offer: their joys, their understandings, and their love for life. To them, these things are more valuable than money, yet they are willing to give them freely. By giving, they create another life with the same joy, aliveness, and understanding that is a part of them.When these things are developed in the other person’s life, that person radiates those feelings, creating new happiness that can be shared among them both. Hence, by giving love, you can automatically receive love in return, even though we do not give them intentionally.